Did you totally start slacking lately and aren’t delivering on your goals? Are you a slacker? Guess what? I’ve been slacking a bit…for the past month. Guess, what? We ALL slack from time to time.
I don’t care how “perfect” you think that person is that you compare yourself to on social media. You know you do it. We all do.
Nobody lives 100% perfectly all the time. We all slack from time to time. It may look a little bit different for everyone, but we all slack off every now and then.
I typically run about 12-15 miles per week. Sometimes, I run three miles and sometimes I run seven miles at once. Basically, I have a weekly goal and I’m flexible with how I get there.
The past month I didn’t run at all! Slacker!
I also used to smoke. Guess what I did? I started smoking again.
I know that when I don’t run, I will smoke. Why? Smoking and running are respiratory therapy for me. Both allow me to breathe deeply and focus on my thoughts. One is healthy of course while the other isn’t!
My wine intake also went up because I wasn’t running. Don’t worry. Nothing crazy, but I have anxiety and running is my way of handling it. Without running, I also require wine in the evening.
I sound like a hot mess, right? Boy did I just fall off the bandwagon or what?
What happened? What was the major set-back?
I was jogging about a month ago and a little puppy followed me home. We have since adopted her and I’ve had to potty train and take care of a sick puppy. She had hook work, was about 10 pounds underweight, was starving, exhausted and was super scared of everyone.
She is healthy now and potty trained, although still chewing….ugh.
This totally threw a wrench in my schedule.
That’s why I want to take some time today to write about goals and more specifically, when we have a set-back. Maybe it’s a setback that was unexpected or maybe we begin to fall back into old habits.
It happens right? Life happens!
I started to get down on myself. I started to think, “Have I blown it?”
Then I started to think…
“Hell no! I haven’t blown it. I took a dog off the streets. I saved a life damn it! Shut up Jerk in the back of my mind!”
I changed the message.
Listen, stuff happens. Not one of us is perfect. We all make mistakes. We all have set-backs. We’re not robots. We’re human.
So how do you get back to your goal…whatever that goal might be?
You Must Be Flexible
I could have just thrown in the towel and given up. I could have said, “Life it just too hard right now. We have too many dogs and kids. This just won’t work. Oh well, it was a good run.”
I didn’t do that. Here’s what I DID do.
I gave myself a break. I didn’t start hating on myself. I told myself “This is temporary. I had a wrench thrown into my schedule but I will figure it out. Maybe, I need to adjust my schedule? Maybe, I need to play around with my schedule a bit until I figure it out?”
Listen, I will tell you right now that you will slack off from time to time. You may pick up a cigarette again, or stop jogging again. You may get off your diet temporarily.
Guess what? That’s okay. It happens.
Here’s what you do.
You Must Forgive Yourself
You tell yourself that you’ve gotten off track, but that you’ve really enjoyed the break. It was just a break. We all deserve a break occasionally, right? You tell yourself that you’ve also enjoyed the benefits of achieving your goals. Then you make a plan to get back on track. Focus on what felt good about achieving your goals, and not how you suck because you slacked.
Again, focus on the positives. Don’t go down the negative spiral of doom! Don’t do it!
Again, maybe you have to adjust your plan? Did a new puppy follow you home? Did that put a kink in your already hectic schedule?
Did you change jobs?
Did you get surgery and have to stop working out for a few months?
Guess what? That’s okay. You’ve just got to remind yourself of how great it felt when you were achieving those goals. Don’t start hating on yourself!!! Stop it!
Don’t start feeling sorry for yourself or talking to yourself unkindly!
It’s all about how to talk to yourself.
If you tell yourself you suck for getting off schedule and you were crazy for thinking you could keep it up, then you’re self-defeating.
If you tell yourself, I’m human and make mistakes, but I’ve got this and I will figure it out…then you will achieve success.
This new puppy is healthy now and has a TON of energy. If I don’t run or walk her two times a day she’s a maniac.
I tried running with her on a leash and she did great! Now, my new schedule is that I will run with her every Monday through Friday morning for three miles. Weekends we’ll just play it by ear…
I’ve figured out that I can combine two goals and accomplish them in one action.
I run and get exercise and I wear this dog out!
I quit smoking again. I also got back to my healthy eating during the week. (I can splurge on the weekends).
Here’s another tip.
Just go back to doing the one thing on your list that gives you the fastest results. Whatever that is for you.
For example, for me, running was the best motivator. After I run, I feel amazing. Heck, while I run I feel great because I’m pounding the pavement and feeling strong! I like to feel strong.
I did that first before I even stopped smoking. Why? I know that when I start running I don’t want to smoke. I also know that once I start running, I get back into my routine of fixing my regular post running breakfast. Habits begin to fall back into place when I just start back on my ONE thing that gets me the quickest results.
Which leads me to the next thing you MUST do to get back on track…
You must do what works for YOU… NOT what someone else thinks is best.
(Unless of course you’re under doctor’s orders, okay? Listen to your doctor)
Here’s what I do to quit smoking. I don’t tell myself I can never smoke again. That just makes me want to buy a carton and smoke like crazy. Lovely, I know. I tell myself that MOST of the time I won’t smoke.
Some people may think that sounds dumb and isn’t good enough.
Guess what? I don’t care. That’s what works for me and makes me happy. If that bothers someone else or isn’t good enough for them? I don’t care. That’s their problem and not mine.
Do I need to be a size two so I feel like I can feel good about myself? Hell no.
When I fluctuate between a size four to six, I’m happy. Why? When I’m that size, I’m running, smoking less or not at all, and I have less anxiety.
Maybe that’s not good enough for some people.
Guess what? Again, I don’t care.
It’s good enough for me.
Why? I’m challenging myself to live better. Period.
Make sure you challenge yourself to live better, but don’t beat yourself up for not getting it 100% of the time. Most importantly, don’t compare yourself to others.
Live YOUR truth. Do YOUR best. Whatever that looks like for you. If someone doesn’t like it, then too damn bad.
Don’t give up. You know the saying “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”
There’s always a way if you believe in yourself AND talk kindly to yourself.
Nothing can stop you except your own perceptions and self-inflicted limitations.”
You’ve got this!
Go do YOU!
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