Did you totally start slacking lately and aren’t delivering on your goals? Are you a slacker? Guess what? I’ve been slacking a bit…for the past month. Guess, what? We ALL slack from time to time.

I don’t care how “perfect” you think that person is that you compare yourself to on social media. You know you do it. We all do.

Nobody lives 100% perfectly all the time. We all slack from time to time. It may look a little bit different for everyone, but we all slack off every now and then.

I typically run about 12-15 miles per week. Sometimes, I run three miles and sometimes I run seven miles at once. Basically, I have a weekly goal and I’m flexible with how I get there.

The past month I didn’t run at all! Slacker!

I also used to smoke. Guess what I did? I started smoking again.

Crap.

I know that when I don’t run, I will smoke. Why? Smoking and running are respiratory therapy for me. Both allow me to breathe deeply and focus on my thoughts. One is healthy of course while the other isn’t!

My wine intake also went up because I wasn’t running. Don’t worry. Nothing crazy, but I have anxiety and running is my way of handling it. Without running, I also require wine in the evening.

I sound like a hot mess, right? Boy did I just fall off the bandwagon or what?

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I continue to see a recurring theme among good men in relationships. I’ve had phone consults with really good men who are worried about their wives. They’re worried about their wife’s happiness or issues that their wives struggle with.

When I say good men, I’m referring to the men who are loving and supportive of their wife. These men provide a sense of peace to the relationship. These are the men who take responsibility for caring for their family.

This recurring theme, however, keeps them in a place of total responsibility for another human.

This is unfortunate.

Good men feel a sense of obligation to care for and protect their wife.

That’s great, but this does not mean that you’re responsible for her happiness.

It simply doesn’t.

Men…you’re NOT responsible for your wife’s overall happiness. If your wife or girlfriend is unhappy, even when you do everything to support her, then that’s on her.

You have not failed her. You are not to blame. It’s actually not even about you!

Do you feel like you’ve done everything possible in your relationship to positively contribute to your wife’s happiness and she’s still unhappy?

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Are you ready for dating strategies? Are you ready to get tactical?

How do you know when you’re ready to start getting super strategic with dating?

There’s relationship and dating advice galore out there. There’s dating gurus who will sell you all kinds of dating strategy.

They have countless products meant to help you get super strategic with dating.

That’s great, but are you really ready for that? [Read more…] about Are You Ready to Begin Dating?

WARNING: MAJOR RANT…

I’m giving some tough love today, but it’s needed.

Remember, I care about you so that means I may tell you something you don’t want to necessarily hear.

Here goes…

There’s only one thing that you should focus on if you’re finding yourself unlucky in love.

I don’t care where you are in life. Whether you’ve never been married, or you’re recently divorced, gay, straight, smart, fit, curvy, goofy, tall, short….the same applies to all.

I mean it, there’s just one thing you MUST do before you even think about finding someone new.

This is for people who…

• just got dumped
• keep getting dumped
• get stuck in dead end relationships
• are unhappy with their love life
• are struggling to meet people
• are struggling to attract people
• are currently unhappy in their relationship

I’m sure I’m missing some scenario, but basically, if you’re unlucky in the love department then this is the best advice you’re ever going to get.

I’m going to keep it really simple.

I’m going to tell you one thing that you MUST do NOW, before you even think about going out on another date, let alone start to fantasize about a relationship with someone.

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Love is not for the lazy! I said that in an interview a week ago so I wanted to revisit that statement is this week’s post.

We’re a society built on instant gratification. I think that’s another reason why more and more people struggle to find a lasting and deep connection with someone. It’s a lot of work!

Love is not for the lazy, but instant gratification is.

If we want to buy something, we order it on amazon prime and in two days it arrives.

If we want to know the answer to something, we google it and seconds later we have our answer.

If we don’t like who we’re dating, we sign up for bumble or some other dating site, swipe right, and shortly we have a new date lined up for the weekend.

If you’re looking for real love, then instant gratification has got to go.

Instant gratification is the #1 love killer.

It can no longer be the way you live your life.

I always say love is a marathon, and not a sprint.

Online dating has completely changed the game.

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