After working with one of my private coaching clients this week, I was reminded of something very important. He came to me after a difficult divorce and now a difficult break-up. He’s literally one of the nicest guys on the planet. It makes me sad that he continues to find himself heart broken and alone.
He just wants to meet a woman who will love him for who he is, who is kind, and who will appreciate his kindness in return.
We sat down together one evening and I asked him to make a list of at least 5 must-haves that he wants in a partner. I gave him 5-10 minutes and told him to really think about what he wants, what he needs, and what will make him happy at the very basic level.
We reviewed the list and worked together for another 25-30 minutes on refining that list. By the time we finished the list transformed into a much longer and more detailed list. I asked him questions and we discussed each trait so that it was perfectly clear to him what kind of woman he was looking for and also what kind of woman he needs. We also clarified some areas where he was confused and needed some direction.