It drives me nuts how many people I see trying to FORCE a relationship. It’s the biggest time waster. Forcing a relationship gets you the exact opposite outcome that you’re trying to achieve!
Are you guilty of trying to force a relationship?
When you’re looking for love you must be open and honest. You must be open and honest not only with the person you’re dating but with yourself. If you’re not honest with yourself then you can’t be honest with the people you date. You’re basically just throwing darts at a board and hoping one hits the bullseye. How many times do you hit the bullseye when throwing darts? (This does not apply if you’re some sort of dart board champion)
When dating, it’s important to express your opinions without judging the other person. You should be open with what works for you and with what doesn’t work for you. Don’t apologize for what you need and how you feel. Also, don’t make another person feel badly if what you both need doesn’t line up. You don’t have to be a demanding jerk about it, but you do need to know what you need. Don’t push someone to be someone they’re not. Don’t try to make someone feel a certain way. Don’t expect that everyone you meet and date will have the same belief structure that you do. You also must mean what you say and be able to back it up. You have to be willing and able to say “That’s okay if that’s what you need, but that doesn’t work for me.”
Then you must be able to walk away.