There’s a myriad of things that men and women both want from their partner. It can be said that women too want the same things. I think there’s a different spin dependent upon which sex you’re referring to. Today’s post is about two things that men long for from the woman they love. If you can provide the below two things to the man you love, he will love you and adore you forever. Of course, like everything else I write about, it must be sincere. It must be authentic and real.
What are two things that men want from the woman who has their heart?
Moreover, what are two things you can do as a woman, to make sure you have his heart forever?
#1. Men want you to love them for who they really are
This means you accept him flaws and all. In fact, you find his flaws aren’t in fact flaws at all, but instead are merely quirks to an already lovable personality. You don’t knit pick the little things you don’t like or try and change things about him that annoy you. Remember everyone has positive traits associated with their negative traits. There’s always an upside. You can learn more about that here. You definitely don’t criticize his decisions and de-masculinize him. If you’re overly critical and judgemental towards your man, you are basically destroying your relationship.
#2. Men want you to fully support them and believe in them.
Men want to know that you have confidence in them and their ability to provide for you and your family. When a woman is confident in his decisions, it only builds his confidence more. If a man has a woman in his corner whom he respects and who truly believes in him and supports his decisions, it will make for a stronger and more confident man. If you don’t really love who he is deep on the inside, then you may not know how to fully support his dreams. This is because you may not fully understand them or even agree with them.
Men Are The True Romantics
I actually believe that men are way more romantic than women. What? Yep, for real. Anybody with me here? When we were little girls we were read the fairy tale story books about finding our prince, but some women get fixated on the material things a man is able to provide for us. Some women get fixated on the house, the car, the bank account. That is not romantic at all!
I’m not saying that all women focus on is materialistic stuff. I’m saying that sometimes women (and men too) can lose focus on what’s really important when we have nice things available to us. It’s easy to become distracted by fancy stuff that’s not as important.
Evolutionary psychology has programmed women to seek out the best mate with the highest likelihood of being able to provide for their children. The alpha male or the chief as some might argue. Women are definitely attracted to strong and powerful men. Oh come on, you know it’s true! There’s a reason for that! That’s our biological drive to ensure our children are provided for and that our ancestors survive. We tend to seek out a man who is a good provider for the survival of our children, even if we can provide for them ourselves.
Yes, I realize we don’t actually need to now, but remember our brains and psyche have evolved to deal with the issues our ancestors faced. Our brains don’t evolve as quickly as this ever changing world. Yes, we can provide for ourselves but it gets tricky when you have kids. Your children’s needs may require something different than you planned for, and a lot of women still prefer to stay home and take care of their children while their man works. Of course there’s no right or wrong way. It’s whatever works for you and your family of course. You should do whatever keeps a happy household.
I think sometimes women are influenced to settle for less than love if we’ve met someone who we think is a good provider. It makes things a little more complicated because we begin to live in our head rather than lead with our heart. We are forced to in a way because we want to love but we also want to be sure we are taken care of. Some might argue that it’s a little more complex for women, although men have their own set of complexities they go through when choosing a mate.
How do you meet a man you can believe in?
First and foremost, you must know your value and have self-respect. You must also learn to be vulnerable so that he feels safe in expressing his hopes and dreams. This gives you the opportunity to support him and believe in him.
When a man meets a woman who does this, it makes him want to be a better man, for her.
Men want to be the best version of themselves. They do this, when you push them to be better. This is tricky however, because it only works if you really love him for who he truly is. It must be authentic. You have to adore his positive traits and push those out of him, not harp on small things you don’t like. In fact you really don’t have to push at all if you share the same values and beliefs. If there are big things you don’t like, then why are you together?
A man wants a woman who makes him want to be the best version of himself. What does that look like? Again, you must be a woman of high value. You cannot settle for less than you deserve and he must respect you. When you challenge him to be better for you, it makes him want to be a better version of himself.
When a man feels fully loved, supported and accepted by you, it makes him want to be a better man. Of course, he has to love you, be attracted to you, and all the other obvious things.
A man just wants a woman who believes in him and encourages him to do what he already knows he wants to do. If you shoot down his dreams, he will not fall deeply in love with you. This is especially true of a driven and ambitious man. If you crap on his dreams or constantly criticize him, be prepared to be in an unhappy relationship or most likely dumped.
A woman who has respect from her man, and encourages him and supports him fully, will get a ton of love back in return. In fact, she too will get the love and support she deserves. It goes both ways.
Believe in him whole heartedly and don’t question his ability to do whatever it is he sets his mind to. I’m not saying you should kiss his you know what!
The truth of the matter is, if you don’t really believe in him and what he represents, then why are you with him?
Find someone whose dreams you can believe in and fully support. That’s what makes a relationship beautiful. That’s what makes a relationship sustainable.
That’s how you have a relationship that consists of lifting each other up instead of putting each other down.
That’s how you make love last. That’s my take on it anyway.
Are you having a hard time meeting a man you can believe in? Are you still dating jerks?
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