Who should pay for dinner? The man, evolutionarily and biologically speaking…what?
If you study Evolutionary Psychology you will learn that our brains and habits are defined by what our ancestors needed, not really what we need now! Pretty crazy right? Our brains are only evolved enough to face the problems our ancestors faced. Our brains don’t evolve as fast as this quickly changing world.
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Biology dictates that when a woman is pregnant, at some point no matter what, she will be unable to solely provide for her child. Whether it’s for weeks to months is the question of course because woman are now more financially self-sufficient and more independent.
But here’s why the man should pay at minimum for the first dinner. (It doesn’t have to be fancy y’all) He’s showing you that he is able to provide for you as a mate and for any potential and non-existent children (bare with me) in the event you become pregnant. More importantly he is showing that he is “willing” to provide. If you’re a woman carrying a child, you have to realize that you won’t be able to “provide” for some period of time. It may be a very short, insignificant period of time. The fact still remains. (Think about women who have to go on bed rest, or heaven forbid the baby stays in the hospital, or is sick and needs round the clock care).
Yes, I realize women are more resourceful now, but there is the chance that a pregnant woman will be physically unable to leave the home to go out and acquire the resources required for her to care for her child. I realize this is a little extreme, but our minds are preparing for reproduction and survival. Our dating responses are based on those needs.
The man is demonstrating that if needed he is “able” and also “willing” to take care of you if and when you need it most and for your children. It’s merely a demonstration. It’s so important to understand that it’s not solely about being able to provide, but about being willing to provide. If he has the means but isn’t willing then he may as well not have the means. Ladies, if he has the means and isn’t willing then he isn’t feeling it for you!
Sorry, but if a man does not pay for dinner at least on the first date, then I would think twice about going out with him again. By the way, I have met many men who told me that a man should pay for dinner. They think it’s ridiculous that people are splitting the check now. These are good men. I’m not saying the other guys are bad. I’m really not. I’m saying that if he really likes you and wants to go out with you again, he will pay. It’s not about the money. Ladies, if a guy really likes you and wants to be certain that you go out with him again? Trust me, he will jump across the table to pick up the tab. If he doesn’t? Please don’t spend a lot of time thinking about him or analyzing the date. He isn’t I promise.
I know it’s confusing these days because sometimes the woman is the one who makes a better living. That’s why I say at minimum the first date. Don’t let chivalry die ladies, and let him demonstrate to you that you’re a woman worth picking up the tab for. It’s literally the least he can do. Are you not worth it? (wink, you are)
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